What does the loss of another make us feel?
I think that it varies per each individual. How close were you to the one who has now gone on from here? The emotions evoked span many different avenues and intersections. For me this most recent loss has been another reality check on how mortal and precious we all are. It also causes me to think about how much time we waste on nonsense.
Now here's the real controversy, what do you believe? What happens when we die? The answer to this is that no one knows. So now you have the influence of belief entangled with the loss of a loved one. This can make things easier or it can make them worse. We all have our own ideas on what happens when you die. Where do we go? Do we cease to exist? Is there a heaven or a hell? Is there a God? These questions pass through our minds when death presents itself into our every day existence.
How truly sad it is that some believe that there is nothing after this life, because if there truly isn't, then what has been the purpose of our existence?